Are rope work and my overall practice sexual?

This is not overtly a sexual practice but it does exist in the realm of sensual and erotic intimacy. Feelings of arousal may show up for you and while that is quite normal, it is not my intention, desire or responsibility to foster a sexual experience for you. That is for you in your own time and space.

Is it painful?

I only work with pain when the client requests it. We will only explore things that we are both comfortable with and that I am competent in. The experience is not inherently painful, I start from a place of calm, ease and softness and we can then determine where you would like to go.

What does the experience feel like?

There is no one particular experience that we are trying to reproduce or create. THe experience is individualised and so how it feels will depend on our participation, our intentions and our history of intimacy. If you have no experience being tied at all, this is a good space to maybe try a few different approaches to see where your desires lay. By its very nature, we cannot predict the outcome of an initial exploration.

Can I change my mind during the session?

Absolutely, you can always change your mind at any point in the overall journey we take together. So can I. That can mean we stop everything and regroup, switch the direction of the original intention within the experience (if it feels responsible to me and something we have already covered as being an ok possibility) or simply take a break. Since this is my work, cancellations will unfortunately incur a cost to cover my expenses.

A few considerations that would be useful, even beyond our collaboration

• Get references about the person you're about to engage with, ask them to put you in touch with people they've worked with in the past so you can get some honest feedback. In my case, most of my collaborators are tagged in photos in the gallery here or on IG so you can approach them independent of me.

• Ask questions about a person's relevant skill set and experience and what makes them qualified to safely and responsibly carry you through this shared experience.

• Be clear on why you want to go through that particular experience and what it is you expect to receive from it. Be clear on your boundaries as well and what you are willing to engage with and what is off limits.

• Limit using buzzwords and defined terms to communicate your ideas and rather try to describe things thoroughly. People understand definitions quite differently and things can be misconstrued after the fact.

• Tell a friend where you're headed or who's headed to you, for how long and with whom so people can know you're safe. In addition, consider giving your collaborator that same person's contact info in case of emergency. Establish an emergency or safety protocol ahead of time.